Til (Death/Divorce/Murder?) Do Us Part–Which One is the Correct Answer?


This morning my husband stared at me from down the pew, in shock, as I smiled broadly and nodded vigorously to a Ruth Graham quote on divorce that the pastor offered. 

Until this morning I had no idea that Ruth Graham had ever said anything along those lines, but since we’ve been married I’ve said the same thing to many people when asked my thoughts on divorce.

“There will be no divorce. ‘Til death do us part.’ was the promise. Now, that death may come by murder, but there will be no divorce.”

My husband played surprised at my response to that today. I still think that’s an appropriate response. 

I take my marriage vows seriously. There will be no divorce. 

That doesn’t mean married life is always a walk in the park.

It also doesn’t really mean that I would actually commit murder to bring that “death do us part” clause to reality quicker. 

Why not?

Because that would breach another, more important, vow I’ve made. One to God.

See, when I became a Christian I entered into a covenant relationship with God. And that promise means I’ll honor His law.

Jesus replied, “’You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.” 
Matthew 22:37-40 NLT


Therefore, I can’t murder anyone, including my spouse. I take my side of the covenant I made with Christ just as serious, more so actually, as I do my marriage vows. 

That ‘death do us part’ will have to come naturally. Sometimes we Christians get accused of not having a sense of humor.

Mine’s intact. I know the scripture. I’ll honor my covenants with both God and my husband. But, my answer won’t change. 🙂


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