Radically Submissive Wife
Submissive women aren’t women who walk three paces behind men with their eyes lowered and mouths shut.
Some of you are still flabbergasted that I am talking about this, that I am supporting the idea of a “submissive woman”, and that need for such a woman exists in today’s day and age. I’m not offended. The Word of God was true yesterday, today, and it will stand up to the test again tomorrow.
How many of you have held your tongue, or your fingers, this week to keep from saying, “Carrie, these principles existed in Bible times, but times are different now. These principals don’t apply anymore. Women are capable of taking care of themselves.”?
I beg to differ.
Not that woman can’t take care of themselves today! I’m absolutely one of those women who CAN take care of herself and whomever happens to fall under her care. I totally agree with you. Surprised?
However, I don’t believe that times are different now. I believe women in “Bible times” were exactly like you and me. Capable.
Sometimes I think we get this misguided impression of women from Bible times. Somehow we gotten stuck on 1 Corinthians 14:34-35 and 1 Timothy 2:11-12 which say:
These two sets of verses (I asked my husband if he knew where the reference was located and his response? “Not off the top of my head, but I have it marked in my Bible.”) are specific in nature as to order in church meetings based on prophecy, tongues, and general confusion going on in the Corinthian church (Corinthians) and then to Timothy’s church at the time.
Christian and non-Christian people alike have battled these verses for years. We try to rationalize them with our societal rules and expectations, our denomination rules and expectations, and our general wants. Every time we find that something doesn’t align. But scripture doesn’t contradict itself, so let’s look at some other scripture.
Therefore, she stayed home with a veil, raised children, and was silent when she attended church with her family. Right? That’s the opinion we have of Biblical women.
What does the actual scripture teach us about Deborah? Deborah was a prophetess.
Um, can women be prophets? The answer is yes. Deborah was an Old Testament woman and she was a prophetess. Let’s see what the New Testament has to say about that.
It seems that the New Testament also includes instructions for how women can appropriately prophesy.
Deborah was a judge. Now, does this Old Testament married woman sound like a silent, doormat?
Deborah was a woman God used greatly. The children of Israel came to her for judgment. They knew where she would be and sought her out. They didn’t look for her husband, father, or brothers, but for her.
Deborah doesn’t seem too much like our society’s idea of a submissive wife, does she?
Deborah didn’t wait for Barak to come to her. She sent for him. And when he arrived she didn’t wait to hear what he had to say for himself, she confronted him with what God had already commanded him to do. God used Deborah to confirm what He had already told Barak to do.
Barak was apparently like some of us. He had his orders, much like Jonah, but he wasn’t responding like he had been instructed. So God gave the message to Deborah, a prophetess in the region, a woman.
I would think that Deborah’s job was done once she had passed on God’s message, but Barak still isn’t quite up to following God’s orders.
“Fine.” he says. “I’ll do it. But only if YOU go with me.”
Ten thousand men already at his disposal, but Barak refuses to go without Deborah. He has more faith in Deborah the prophetess than he does in God. This is a wrong attitude on his part, but it tells us quite a bit about how Deborah is perceived in her community. Especially by the strong men in her community.
Deborah does not back down from his challenge, nor does she let him off the hook.
“Absolutely I’ll go with you, but you will receive no glory for this mission. The Lord will let Sisera be taken by the hand of a woman.”
And Deborah took off into battle with a man who wasn’t her husband.
Was Deborah a submissive woman or was she in direct opposition to the teachings I’ve spent so much time examining this week? She sure wasn’t a shy church mouse of a woman! She definitely wasn’t the silent in church type. She absolutely wasn’t the three paces behind a man kinda girl.
We need to know that Deborah was submissive. She submitted to God. He directed her path and she walked that path even though it was a very unusual path for the time and culture she was born into.
She submitted to Barak who God put in authority over her. Notice her submission didn’t mean she held her tongue and was silent. She clearly spoke the words God gave her even when they could have been poorly received.
She submitted to the leadership of her church. They are the ones who placed her in the position she held. She had to maintain the rules and expectation to keep the position. That required submitting to the church’s leadership.
Based on our introduction to Deborah, we know she held three important positions: prophetess, wife, judge. We do not know any details about her marriage, but based on her character, we can make the correlation that she submitted to her husband as she did to God, the church, and other men placed in positions of authority over her.
Deborah was far from a weak, second-rate citizen. She did not hold a meaningless position in society. Even by today’s standards she would have been considered high-ranking and high-powered.
Struggling with the idea of being submissive and still being a strong, productive member of society? Don’t, daughter, don’t.
God created you just the way you are. He made you strong, decisive, and gave you counseling and leadership characteristics on purpose for His purpose. Don’t you dare think He wants you to hide them or force them into silence.
Don’t try to be something you aren’t because we have this misguided impression of what a submissive wife should look like. If God has called you to be a Deborah, then submit to His calling and stop questioning Him!
It’s time to say YES, Lord, YES!